kasia in a nutshell

I admire your keen sense of irony, Mike.

People who think they know everything make it difficult for those of us who actually do ;-)

I like ur blog and i want to ask permission to put a link of it on my site, thanks. =)

No one actually "knows everything". There is always something new to learn, always someone, more or inteligent or not as intelligent, or you might not even think of them as intelligent but they are vastly more intelligent then you to come along and give you advice, help you, teach you, insult your intelligence. You just have to be able to listen to them, take in what they say and use what you can of it.

People that say they know everything have just decided they know enough that they don't have to learn anymore, or that they *know so much* that everyone else is just plain stupid. As a tech I run into them all the time. They use a bunch of computer jargon and act like they know exactly what they are doing...right up to the point where they give the computer to you and say "I thought I could fix it." Those are the most fun fixes..."I thought i could fix it"....they end up making the issue so much worse then what it was.

My dad taught me (through example) that when someone asks you something like "do you know what your doing" it's best to just say you don't have a clue. It sets their expectations for you lower, and their appreciation for the end product higher.
If you tell them you are a master of whatever it it ends up coming out not so great...then what...you look like a fool.

"And if I claim to be a wise man, well
It surely means that I don't know" ~ Carry on my wayward son by Kansas

Did any of you actually read the study?

Mike,
Your mature approach to my mild grammar issue is most appreciated. I'll keep track of my your and your're from now on....just for you! :)

that was of course a you're :-/

"Did any of you actually read the study?" - Paul

I did and OMFG was it a yawner! Good bedtime reading if you suffer from sleep disorders. Interesting study but WOW I've read Comp Sci papers on primality that were more engaging.

dude, who wouldn't want to get with Kasia?

she's hot AND she's the smartest person in the room!

She could also kick your ass.

Hate do dash your hopes, Mike, but you won't be able to pay anyone to be your friend. Put another way, if you have to ask, you can't afford it.

What a bunch of pathetic losers. You all kiss Kasia's ass in the very remote chance that she'll "get with you." How sad. Have you ever seen how ghastly pale white she is? But I guess being the bunch of pimply obese dorks you are, you'll hope for anything.

Sigh. All this time I've been kissing her ass when I should have been leveraging the "naughty boy needs a spanking" angle. Thanks for enlightening me.

Now I feel bad ... really BAD.

whose kissing ass? It's not like I'm out to try to hook every girl that knows her way around a Unix box...but commenting on such a girl's blog doesn't mean I'm desperately trying to get in her virtual pants, as it were.

What I can't understand is why Dave and Mike have to make such *negative* comments all the time...Did a geek hit you on the head when you were a baby? I hear they have a guy that you can talk to and he'll cure all of that supressed childhood trauma you have built up.

fadumpt,

What Dave and Mike are doing is acting up for attention. The simple way to explain it is that since they can't get enough "good" attention, they act "bad" to get "bad attention." It's easiest to understand in children, but that behavior isn't limited to that group.

Basically, we all need a certain amount of attention - ideally from our loved ones. In the case of children, that would be their parents. In cases where a child doesn't get enough attention, they learn that they can get it through misbehavior. As odd as it may sound, human beings crave attention so much, we would rather be abused than ignored. Better to feel mommy and daddy's wrath for our misbehavior than to not get any response for them at all.

Remember, the opposite of love isn't hate, it's indifference. Being ignored is crushing, but provoking a negative raction at least shows that the other person cares.

In their own way, Dave and Mike are provoking Kasia (and us) for her (our) attention. For whatever reason, they each feel unloved and are acting out, hoping that show them we care by offering our harsh responses.

In short, they want Kasia's love. Sometime in their past they learned that the best way to get attention from people they love (i.e. their parents) is through misbehavior.